Forgiving Someone Who Isn't Sorry
By the Pace with Grace editorial team
Key Verse · Colossians 3:13 (NIV)
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
Here's the thing nobody warns you about: most of the people you'll need to forgive aren't going to apologize. Not the way you want. Not at all.
And Scripture still asks you to forgive.
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
But forgiveness in the Bible isn't what most people think it is. It's not 'pretend it didn't happen.' It's not 'let them back in.' It's not 'be friends again.' Forgiveness and reconciliation are different things.
Forgiveness is the choice to stop building your identity around what they did. To stop letting them rent space. To release the debt, not because they earned it, but because you're tired of carrying it.
You can forgive someone and still keep them out of your life. That's biblical. That's wisdom.